Two weeks ago I attended a BBQ my friend Jeremy was having in Brooklyn. When I arrived to the party the only girl there besides me was a former female bike messenger who was 5 months pregnant. The girl was nice but she seemed to always have to be the center of the conversation. Everyone knows that one person at the party who has to dominate conversation.Well that was her. I pride myself on being able to go with the flow in awkward situations and the guys made me feel right at home.I laughed at the stories they told about their near death experiences and altercations they got themselves into on their bikes. I saw their passion and it relfected how I feel about fashion. At one point the guys started asking me style questions and how things should fit. I gladly gave each guy my advice as to what I thought was important in a guys wardrobe.
Lately I have really started to pay close attention to how men and women act towards each other. I noticed that group of guys laughed more than a group of women. They could pick at one another and not be hyper-sensitive. There was a feeling of commorodary and an appreciation for each personality. Each time someone new arrived to the party everyone was easily accepted into the group.
Last week my best friend/roommate invited me to a party with her once again out in Brooklyn. Although I had worked all day and was totally exhausted I couldn't pass up the beautiful weather. Besides I couldn't turn down a rooftop party with a bunch of law students. Another random weekend for me..... When we arrived to the party and stepped out onto the rooftop we noticed the guy who invited us hadn't arrived yet. We introduced ourselves and immediately begin to chat with the guys. The girls all seemed quite clickish and frankly gave off bad energy. My friend even saw some of her female co-workers and they hardly spoke to her. Once again I was shocked as to how women can be so cold with one another. I left with two new guy friends and no new female friends!!
Last night I went out with my "its complicated" and his best friend. Talk about pressure. Meeting the best friend could make or break a relationship. The evening was started with this weird energy due to the fact that entire city was buzzing about Hurricane Irene. We met for drinks and I am happy to report that it all went down quite pleasant and I was able to win the best friend over with my charm...haha. My point to this particular story is that I feel if that his best friend were a female I don't think the outcome would have been the same.
I want to be able to meet cool laid back girls out there who can laugh and just enjoy life without gossiping and trying to put each other down. I think reality television is also affecting how women act towards each other...basically these shows are promoting this sort of bickering and drama between women. No longer is their a united front like the women of Sex and The City....the only example out there for younger girls is The Bad Girls Club, Basketball Wives and all of the Housewives franchises. I am guilty of watching some of these shows only to laugh at how silly these women are. My point is... It only takes a few people to make a change. So when you hear gossip or somehow get involved in unnecessary drama. Remove yourself from the situation and don't be the Mean Girl. Be the girl who is real, kind, and treat people how you would want to be treated. Because if you don't you could be missing out on the opportunity to get to know really cool people.
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